Like a program running on the computer taking up all the processing speed, we try to push through. It's unrelenting, making everything more difficult, especially putting on a good face like everything's fine—time to release.
We wish it was one feeling, but know it's a tidal wave of emotions. We do our best to navigate, but sometimes it's too much, and we feel like we're drowning—time to heal.
When grief hits, it hits hard. It can derail us, dimming our light and our spirit. The sadness can be unrelenting. It's like an unwanted guest that's taken an indefinite residence in our heart—time to give it notice.
Grief is an experience we all face, but we've never been taught two essential life skills - How to grieve and, most importantly, how to let go.
We don't move on; we move through.
The challenge is burying the feelings and bottling it all up only increases the pain. What we resist persists.
There's a way through. We don't have to be resigned to a life of pain.
Grief is profoundly personal and individual though we tend to get stuck in similar ways.
We don't all grieve the same though we universally block the flow of emotions.
Letting go is a skill of allowing flow. Our culture shames and judges our feelings and deems them as weaknesses or failures.
We dam the flow when we analyze, rationalize, and intellectualize emotions. We can't "mind over matter" grief. Grief asks us to take the 18-inch journey from our heads to our hearts.
Letting go is letting flow, and peace naturally comes with it.
"I can't imagine where I'd be without this program by AmarAtma! Seriously life-changing."
I’m a Grief Coach with advanced certification as a Grief Recovery Specialist. I have board Certification in Chaplaincy and Chinese Medicine. I have a duel Master’s Degree in Traditional Chinese Medicine and Ministry. I’ve spent the last 20 years learning all about grief, personally and professionally, figuring out the simplest and easiest way to handle the most challenging and heaviest experience of our life - grief.
I'm excited to share it all with you!!
All sessions done through Zoom. Working with you in your time zone, with grief services in the comfort of your home. No restriction based on location. Personal service with world-renowned grief specialist AmarAtma from anywhere in the world!
75min sessions with a dedicated time slot specifically for you. Full attention and support on your goals and needs. Each session is a combination of personal reflection with exercises in letting go.
This is not just work with a professional listener - this is a how to for grief. Weekly "heartwork" assignments, coaching style techniques, reflection prompts, and a methodology plus a handbook are all utilized. Peace is active not passive - coaching helps show the way.
Caring for the nervous system is essential in our modern times. Mindfulness and Mindful Movement exercises are integrated into the coaching program. Recognizing grief hits at many levels and the body often carries the burden, somatic exercises are utilized to help with release.
A care trajectory with a beginning, middle, and end. Recovery doesn't require years of service. Sometimes the support we need are resources to feel equipped. Grief is an essential life skill we've never been taught.
Taking into account heavy emotions can be scary, this coaching program is all about gentleness and safety. The goal is relief, but not through pushing or achieving. This coaching service is all about softness, sweetness, and gentleness.
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"I’m having a hard time expressing just how incredibly grateful I am for the work AmarAtma does. I stumbled upon an Instagram post of his, about grief, in August of 2021. This was just weeks after my whole world had just fallen apart. I was dealing with the 4 year anniversary of my moms death, my life had spiraled out of control, and I found myself in the lowest place I’ve ever been. I had no idea that I had unresolved grief, but I did know I was miserable.
After reading AmarAtma’s post about grief I requested his free e-book which opened my eyes to just how much grief I was (not) dealing with, and how it was playing a hugely negative role in my life. I felt compelled to reach out for a consultation. I remember feeling so uncomfortable taking that first step, and then feeling so at ease and even excited after the call. I immediately signed up for the 12 week grief program and I can confidently say that decision has changed the trajectory of my life!
I have completed the 12 week grief program and have moved into weekly life coaching with AmarAtma and every single week I see growth and progress in myself. I am forever grateful for the wisdom, compassion and strategies AmarAtma has shared with me and how I’ve been able to turn my life into something worth living again!"
"I came to AmarAtma's work because I was grieving a friend I was estranged from and recently learned he was dying. I was floundering in my grief and old beliefs and felt tremendous guilt about our estrangement- I felt it was my fault. Through Grief Coaching with AmarAtma I learned how to get a better handle of my grief and recover from this toxic relationship and toxic relationships that surrounded this old friend of mine. My coach invited me to "deep dive" into my feelings and purge them. At first, it was hard to let go of my anger and find something to fill up the hole losing it would create. But the process was really helpful. I am free from the power of the words that hurt me! My friend died during my coaching service with AmarAtma. He helped me prepare for his funeral and face what I dreaded with all those toxic relationships. I got to experience how far I've come and went through the funeral without all the raw emotions I initially felt. Now, I find I'm pretty light-hearted, and I'm happier than I've been in years. I experience self-praise, joy in who I am, and contentment that I'm where I need to be. If there's something I can share with someone who's wondering about starting this program, this is what I would say, be prepared to give up what you've been holding on to. I didn't know how to let go, and I didn't realize how holding on made my life so miserable. Liberating!!"
There were many reasons why I sought out Grief Coaching with AmarAtma. Initially, it was to grieve the loss of many close people in my life, which then turned into grieving my life before marriage and moving away from my home and family. I sought Grief Coaching because I needed someone to focus on the losses with me. My biggest obstacle was thinking I could do it on my own, which I told myself for months. It's been something I have struggled with for a long time, and as I kept losing people, my thoughts would spiral more and more. Life felt quiet, eerie, and still. I felt as if I had no direction and didn't know how to comprehend the death of my loved ones.
Since working with AmarAtma, I have been able to achieve confidence in myself. He validated me for what I was thinking and feeling made me feel like I made sense. I am still deeply saddened at the losses I have experienced, but instead of feeling angry and confused, I feel that it is OK. Now I have practices, tools, and resources. If I feel very sad about someone I lost, there are things I can write or say to myself that will make me feel better. I feel like I am back to myself after years. I believe I will always be a work in progress, just like everyone else. The difference is that now I am motivated to be the best version of myself and to be open-minded to what will come my way.
For those exploring this work, I would tell them that it is life-changing and that there is so much more to grief aside from the physical loss of someone.
"I connected to AmarAtma through his posts on Instagram and realized grief not only comes when someone dies, but it can also come from a variety of losses. I felt that. I was going through a spell of depression and a lot of anxiety… kind of stuck and broken. I lost a lot in my lifetime, more than I even realized. I lost friendships and my lifestyle due to Covid, experienced a house fire, and experienced many friends pass away… many, many things. I was desperate to feel better. AmarAtma made me feel comfortable, and I felt understood. There was no judgment, and the grief as the primary focus made this really special for me. I was definitely afraid to face and deal with my problems, but I’m grateful to say I have gotten out of that depression funk! Anxiety is lessening! I now know many more ways to help me maintain a better state of mind. My entire mental state has improved, and I no longer hold on to guilt, anger, and other emotions that we worked through regarding my heavy losses. I feel out of the depression fog, with less anxiety and a huge amount of inner peace. Amar Atma has helped me so greatly in releasing emotions I have carried for such a long time! Like a huge boulder was broken apart and released!"
"I was feeling stuck in my grief journey. I was struggling to find peace and meaning in my life after my husband died of cancer 4 years after we got married. I had a lot of looped thoughts around past conversations, anxiety, insomnia, restless during the day and a hopeless worry about life. I was looking for a way to make peace with the past, process the trauma from caregiver burnout and rediscover my faith. AmarAtma's approach of mindfulness along with grief coaching helped me to go deep within myself and rediscover my faith. I learned how to forgive myself and others and that's been the most life changing. I was also learned how to shift from my mind to my heart space. I feel at peace with my past, and the conversations in my head that use to bother me have quieted. I have grown and evolved and now look forward to new life experiences. I have gained skills and mindset and mindfulness techniques to go through grief and have confidence to face challenges with courage and strength. If you're stuck in the past, pain, grief, or trauma this coaching will not only heal you, but give you life long skills! AmarAtma is incredible and amazing at this job, I wouldn't change anything!
- Grief Client
"Initially, it was my work with Covid patients as a nurse. I was really struggling in my day-to-day. I was fatigued and cranky and really had a sense of loss that I couldn’t quite pinpoint. I was tired and hopeless. I had very low self-esteem and everything seemed to bring me down. I wanted to find myself again. I was dealing with a loss of self, which later I identified as unresolved grief. I’m terrible about asking for help or admitting I need it. I was also fearful about being vulnerable. It’s not counseling, it's coaching. It’s not a session about feelings and circumstances, but what we can do to cope and move through our loss. A new and renewed energy, coping skills, a sense of self and a true recognition of what being centered means. I am now rooted in gratitude. I no longer feel the need to judge my actions and am able to participate in self praise. Energy, grounded-ness and improved relationships and grace for myself and for others are a regular experience for me. My recommendation: Do it!! It’s better than anything out there and will change your life if you’ll let it. AmarAtma is truly a gift. I consider myself so lucky to know him. He helped saved me from a deeply dark time of my life!"
"I wanted to take a moment to recognize AmarAtma’s skill set and compassion as a grief and life coach.
What began for me was a big emotional tangle with high levels of anxiety. I called how I felt: ”my raggedy Ann stuffing was coming out” after providing nursing care through the COVID-19 pandemic in the Bay Area. I could not find my way back to center and navigating my true north become more difficult.
We began with grief work and he supported me through some very scary emotional unknowns. He of course was very well versed in the roller coaster of emotions I experienced and held my hand throughout the experience (Zoom was perfect!). I am changed. I’m whole. I am resilient. I could not have navigated my journey alone. I’m forever grateful for our work together. If you have any concerns, trust the process and AmarAtma’s gifts. You’ll be blessed for it."
"After over a year of working with each other, AmarAtma has been witness to extreme highs and lows within my life and I’m incredibly grateful to have his support throughout all of it. We’ve cultivated ways to overcome and work through anxiety, depression, and other heavy aspects of life, AmarAtma has coached me through lessons in grief work and helped me to better grasp my own healing and as a product learned how to truly experience joy. I look forward to our sessions each week and the lessons that I will get to learn. It’s been one of the biggest wonders in my life to share space with someone who listens, coaches, and loves so authentically all while putting in the own work himself which continues to inspire me. I’ve experienced an immense amount of growth during the course of our time together and because of that gained a deeper appreciation for life. I’m incredibly grateful to have been shown how to process the heartache, dive deep into grief and articulate dreams along with way. I’m constantly surprised and proud of my own growth that’s stemmed from grief work and overall deep diving into self work that has been guided by AmarAtma, I think that this is a tool and practice that can benefit everyones life and I’m so thankful to be able to experience this work. It’s not about getting over all the hard stuff we experience in life but getting through it, releasing pain and shame and feeling more equipped to fully experience the beauty all the pain and joy to come. "
After my husband passed, I was looking for new ways to find purpose and joy in my life. His calm presence invited me to share when normally I don't feel comfortable to express. He really makes me feel like I'm the only person he works with! I was so surprised by how a series of simple exercises really moved me to a new space of awareness. He helped me get in tune with how I was feeling. I'm better for it and process my grief. I highly recommend him for grief coaching!
“Before I spoke with Amar Atma, I had just graduated from my integrative medicine fellowship and was wondering what to do next. I was unsure of where to go with this and how to pursue my life’s long mission to help others connect with their meaning and their spiritual health. I was in great need for clarity. Amar Atma kindly offered a coaching session that was transformational for me. He held the space with compassion and helped me see what was holding me back. I gained a different perspective of things and the clarity and inspiration I was looking for. He used my own deeply held values to help me move forward with confidence and a clear understanding of myself and what inspires me. If you are looking for that strong insightful deeper presence to help you transform your life, then Amar Atma is that person!”
SIMRAN RATTAN MD
Week 1 - Orientation
Sharing your story with an introduction to the first grief release exercise.
Week 2 - Why we get stuck?
Learning the main mechanisms that keep us stuck with an introduction to the second grief release exercise.
Week 3 - Introduction to Emotional Resilience
Demystifying emotions while learning how to connect to our feelings without drowning.
Introduction to the third grief release exercise.
Week 4 - Finding Relief from Emotional Pain
Getting past emotion phobia around grief with an introduction the fourth release exercise.
Week 5 - Unlearning What We've Learned About Grief
Learning what grief is, and what grief isn't while exploring the Myths of Grief.
Week 6 - Debunking the Grief Myths
Exploring the ways we have been taught to explore grief that are not allowing the natural process to emerge.
Week 7 - Ineffective Coping
Learn about STERBs - Short Term Energy Relieving Behaviors that arise with grief.
Introduction to the fifth grief release exercise.
Week 8 - Naming Losses
Learning how grief is cumulative and the process of releasing the pressure of the stored grief. Introduction to the sixth grief release exercise.
Week 9 - A Whole Hearted Experience
Naming the good, the bad, the ugly in relationships that we are still experiencing.
Introduction to the seventh grief release exercise.
Week 10 - Grief Recovery
Opening to new pathways of acceptance and love while honoring grief.
Introduction to the eight grief release exercise.
Week 11 - Final Letting Go exercise
Reflections on final assignment
Cultivating relationship to peace, love and joy!!
Week 12 - Integration and Reflection
Final Week and maintaining balance with the new awareness of grief.
Focuses on emotional resilience and emotional intelligence
Focuses on normalizing grief and why we often get stuck feeling so heavy
Focuses on the bulk of our grief work with the final 3 letting go exercises
You're seeking therapy. We won't be doing psychoanalysis or cognitive behavioral therapy. While sessions are therapeutic, this service is not therapy.
Unable to be consistent with the schedule. While weekly sessions is not required, building a momentum is important. Each session builds upon the other. The impact is cumulative.
You're not interested in doing "the work." This is a coaching program where we'll utilize techniques in and out of coaching sessions to help find relief. The only way out of grief is through.
Sick and tired of being sick and tired. Feel powerless or helpless in your grief and wanting do something about it? Yes! Many of us become resigned to a life of suffering. No, there are things we can do. This is coaching program for those motivated to taking that alchemical step.
Interested in actionable steps. Grief is part of life - it's inevitable. Weekly coaching with "Heartwork" exercises and techniques help pave the path to for you become resourced and equipped to face grief.
Ready to let go. Letting go is so challenging when we don't know how. Gratefully, it's a skill than anyone can learn. Once we learn and feel equipped, we can reclaim feelings of aliveness.
Payment plans are available. We can review your options on our call.
I work with people in varying fields, including healthcare, where schedules are hectic. Sessions do not have to be at the same time each week. Sessions do not have to be every week, though we want to keep momentum. I sometimes suggest taking a week off to integrate from a session. It's more accurately 12 sessions than 12 weeks.
Yes! We experience many more losses than death. Over 40 types of losses exist, ranging from death, and divorce to moves, education, job change, friendship loss, pet loss, financial difficulties, to shifts in faith, spirituality, or community. This grief program supports the varying losses we grieve, especially as it's personalized support for you. Whether several losses or multiple losses, we can accommodate and support.
Unfortunately no. This is coaching, not therapy or counseling. It is a program with a trajectory of care and an arch of healing. Consistency and commitment are important to this journey for full benefits. For this reason, I've curated a program that's the simplest way with the highest benefit and do not currently offer individual sessions.
About one to two hours per week. As this is a coaching program and much of the challenges we face about grief is that we are under-equipped and under-resourced, techniques, reflections, and exercises help to support the individual sessions. Sessions 7-9 are the weeks with the most extended reflections. These sessions are the meat of our grief coaching program.
No!! This service is specialized for someone experiencing any type of grief - acute or chronic. There are many misconceptions about grief that keep us stuck. Unfortunately, some of these myths don't help and can be detrimental to our healing journey. In the initial sessions, we create a healthy foundation to grieve effectively.
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